Premarital relationships

Q: Can I meet my fiancé in a restaurant three days before our marriage, with our parents' permission?

Q: Me and my, don’t no what to call him, but we did zina and I got pregnant. We didn’t end up having nikaah. He didn’t want to have it with me still after I had the baby. I’m giving him hints that I want it pure and clean and he does not want to. We are both Muslims, grew up both in Muslim households and I’m just lost. I don’t know what to do.

Q: I am a mother to a 21 year old daughter who is a chef by profession and works away from home. She has met a gentleman who is older than her (she is 21) he is in his 30's. He is from the Christian faith (coloured) and wants to marry her with intention of converting to Islam. They have being dating now for a year. He appears to be respectful, and mature and is apparently the owner of an electrical business, however they both work together at the same resort.

She has introduced him to some Islamic ways already and has offered him an English/Arabic Quraan to learn more about Islam. Not much has being discussed with me as her mother, but I fear that they are living together and making their own plans.

I raised this girl by myself as her dad passed away when she was 6 years old. When she was 10 I remarried and had a second daughter, but she was part of all of this. She grew up being very shy and too scared to do things on her own. Mum had to be always there to help.

I am not happy with this relationship. I am not sure if he is being honest. He has offered her his credit card to use at liberty, his car to drive at liberty (BMW), and takes her to a building site where he apparently is building a house for her and his mum. She is currently allowed to help with all the building decisions.

I did not raise my child with no values and beliefs. I am saddened by her choice. She believes that this is her soul mate. Please advice me as to what route to take and how to manage the situation.

Q: I've been in a relationship with someone for the past five years, the reason we didn't get married earlier was because my mother dissaproved. After a while I lost interest in the young man. Then I met someone new, I love this new person alot, but we had a had some issues and we broke up for a while about four months, so the first guy who had been in the picture earlier asked me if he could marry me so I said okay he could, but a month later the second guy returned back into my life and my heart preferd to be with him, but the other person had already introduced himself to my family.

1. What is the penalty for calling off the engagement with him so I could marry the one my heart is inclined towards?

2. What is the penalty for running away and getting married without my guardians consent, cause I can't tell them about the second person, cause he's not from the same race as I am.

I'd read a question were the answer was that it was shameful to do so, is it just shameful or is there a penalty for doing so with Allah Ta'ala.